The difference between pity and true forgiveness.

 The difference between pity and true forgiveness.



We walk around every day - full of opinions and judgments about the world and the supposed others in it. We criticise and judge, in the attempt to make us feel better about our place in it all. Underneath this we know in our core that the void that is there cannot be filled by putting others down in order to make ourselves feel better, and yet it is all we know. 


When we offer another support, we assume that this desire to help comes from a place of good intention. We never for a moment check out the validity of this. If we did, we would see something that we do not want to. We would see that in our movement towards helping them we are being as selfish as if we were not helping them at all. 


“Why?” I hear you ask. “That makes no sense!?” 


If we were to truly follow thought back to its root, we would see that its movement comes not from an unattached movement of love but from the desire to make ourselves feel better about the situation, or thoughts, or feelings that it is causing in us. 

“They are in pain...I must help” is the movement but at the root of this, is it the thought “I don’t like them in pain and it makes me feel uncomfortable so I must try and fix it.”?

In an attempt to not reveal these underlying feelings and thoughts the thought structure covers them over with thoughts of “the other” and their supposed needs. The thought “I will make it all better” in truth has an undertone of “because I need to”. 


Why might we ask if we are brave enough? 

The answer would be “Because if I do not, I will feel bad and we can’t have that”. 

This flows naturally on to “Well, I must do something about that then so that I can avoid any possible negative feelings by being the good person that I believe myself to be. That will fix it!” says thought. 


Never in our society are we asked to look at these movements. Not in school, not in college, not even in university! Exploration of thought! Dangerous stuff!! We might see something we don’t like. Better to stay well clear. I will focus all my energy on others. That will keep me safe. 


The time is coming when it won’t be safe and it will be exposed for what it really is. It can’t hide for much longer. 

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Can you really be nobody?

The spiritual journey can feel like a long and arduous one at times. At times thoughts torment and torture. They cry out in pain and scream. They throw a paddy like a small child desperate to be in charge. They try to assert the illusion of control and the belief that there is an “I” that is behind the thoughts, feelings and actions. They have to be in charge. They have to be talking about something that is real. This ME. This I. This Self. Of course it is there. Right? However, all that is needed is to watch. This seems easy. It seems simple but it is not. The habit of getting hooked into thought and its topics about imagined people, places and things is the most challenging feat we have to face as a human being. It is not for most. Most want to stay asleep. The contents is appealing. It’s seductive. The chase is still on. I must want, need and have. But for a few they are done.  Watching means seeing things we do not want to see at first. Then it means letting go of things we do not
Read more

Selfishness IS the only movement of thought

   "I" always believed very strongly that "I" was a kind person. The story held was that "I" am empathetic, caring and very compassionate. "I" would attempt to support others in any way "I" could emotionally. "I" had a strong sense that "I" was a good, honest and supportive person.  Then "I" began to enquire into how thought works. Why does it say the things that it does? What is its motive? What is it trying to get, achieve and control?  On the surface layer. Of course "I" was being caring. Of course "I" was being supportive. But in the exploration of the layers of thought underneath the action and the first layer of story were found to be beliefs of "being right", and of "knowing better". This led to the desire to explore and question more. So if "I" am doing something or saying something because "I" think "I" am being kind or giving my
Read more

Being rather than understanding and knowing

  Being rather than understanding and knowing   The road to finally waking up in its fullest expression is ladened with pitfalls. Some are shallow and stoney and others deep and dark. The length of time we remain in the holes depends on what is needed to be learned and how fast we see we are in a hole and seek to climb back out.  One of these large pitfalls is that of understanding or knowing. When we begin to “learn” about spiritual awakening and non duality we take it on as information in the form of knowledge. We read, watch, experience and then it is stored within thought as memory. This allows for enquiry within thought to begin. Questions about the actual content begin to be asked such as “Why can I not forgive them?” or “What is it that I am expecting from this situation?”. As this evolves we then begin to ask looser questions about the content such as “Why do I feel this way?” or “What is at the root of this particular chain of thought?”. We then go on to ask questions not abou
Read more